Yesterday, I started writing about Ephesians 5, but didn’t even reach past the first two verses. It got me bouncing around the books of John and 1 John as well as to the prayers in previous chapters of Ephesians. To summarise, it was this: we are loved, and in this knowledge we should be obedient.
This chapter then reiterates what is acceptable and what isn’t in a life of light:
- no sexual immorality;
- no impurity;
- no greed;
- no obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking;
- no drunkenness and debauchery;
- lots of thanksgiving;
- being filled with the Spirit;
- speaking with psalms, hymns and songs from the Spirit;
- singing and music in our heart.
We are told we need to be careful.
Be careful, then, how you live — not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity because the days are evil.Ephesians 5:15-16
We are also told this in verses 8 to 10.
For you were once in darkness, but now you are children of the light in the Lord. Live as children of light (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth) and find out what pleases the Lord.
I really like the last part of this passage, about finding out what pleases the Lord. It does conjure the image of a child making breakfast in bed or picking out a present for a parent of out love and affection for them. Also, to think that we can do things to please the God that made the universe. That’s like saying an ant could do something to please us. It’s baffling, but it’s true. Although we are tiny and insignificant in comparison, God delights in us and treats us with a significance that we don’t actually warrant. That’s just incredible.
The end of this chapter is the somewhat controversial passage about marriage. I say somewhat because I don’t have a problem with it. (Of course you don’t you privileged white male!) This passage talks about how both wife and husband devote themselves to each other in a compassionate, sacrificial way. It tells us that a man “must love his wife as he loves himself” and must be willing to give himself up as Christ did for his church. This is a fantastic command designed for the man to honour his wife. So, I think this passage is great.
What does make me sad is that it seems historically society were so bent on enforcing the instructions to wives in verses 22-24, that the men were too exhausted it seems to follow the instructions given to them in verses 25-33. I’m sad that because of this legacy of misogyny and misaligned patriarchal focus, that passages such as these are dismissed without looking more deeply into the design for marriage that God had.